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Tuesday, 2 July 2019

FinDamn: Sugar Scams, Part 16

I hope you're ready for some doozies.

Reader's Advisory: Names and locations will be changed for these brief profiles and anecdotes to preserve the anonymity of my sources and respect their privacy. Some profanity and allusions to kink and sexual content are included; discretion is advised.

The worst and strangest subs


The Gross Man - This Indian Subcontinent-based submissive had a fetish for roleplays in which he and his grandchildren were tortured or humiliated (no children were harmed in the process; I interrogated him to ascertain as much). He claimed to be very, very wealthy, and had a text from his bank (probably fraudulent) that said as much. He made large purchases from my Amazon wishlist and bought a Samsung S10+ without being asked for it - but refused to send anything over Paypal. The reason soon became apparent - he hadn't purchased anything, or if he had, it had been refunded immediately. At any rate, it never arrived in my American forwarding mailbox. Some research on Twitter revealed that in addition to loving humiliation and class-based roleplay, he had run this con on other dommes. Cursing my bad luck, I resolved to be more careful.

The Mother-Loving Mormon - Outwardly a MAGA-following Mormon with serious racist tendencies, I told this sub outright that his political beliefs made me want to humiliate him. (Aggression and rudeness are quite acceptable in certain contexts within the community, of course.) In private, he was intrigued, and we had a much more reasonable discussion. He admitted to being romantically in love with his mother, and wanting her to dominate and control him. With fetishes for blasphemy, public-shaming, and scat, as well as a more innocent and humorous adoration of buttons, he was well-aware of his repressed desires and their taboo nature.

Reasoning that he was just trying to break out of his cage and the excessive adoration of his mother, I resolved to help as much as I could. Supportively talking with him about the importance of compassion, taking him through roleplays and soothing aftercare visualizations, I was proud of the self-examination he seemed to be making. Unlike The Gross Man and Young Twat, he did send me a small tribute - $10 on Amazon, which I used to buy a gold-plated necklace on the website. I had high hopes for him - he asked for help to be a better person, less racist, and even expressed kind thoughts towards LGBTQ+ people in private.

Then he apparently confessed his love to his mother, was kicked out, and went to a hotel to get drunk. I suggested the best resources I could and expressed my empathy and sympathy, resolving to keep an eye on him for his own safety. He blocked me unexpectedly, and I'm unsure what happened to him. Perhaps he backslid? Perhaps he found a new domme? It's always hard to know, but all I could do was hope he found the assistance he so desperately needed.

Young Twat - Posing as a Canadian, age 24 and residing in Vernon, BC, this scoundrel drew out our communications for over a month. Baiting me with offers of substantial pay for things like toenail clippings, plucked hairs, scabs, and excreta (the latter of which, I demurred over), he responded with excitement and enthusiasm to my most brutal tones. Sure that I had a steady-paying sub in my grasp, I kept teasing and baiting him - even staying awake to make him go to the bank and deposit his pay.

Unfortunately, he had been running a con, and blocked me immediately. Frustrated, I had some of my fellow dommes contact him - only to have him shuffle back sheepishly. He revealed that he was broke, 18, from London - and had run the same scam on many, many other dommes and even a few "cashmasters" (male doms in the findom scene).

After a tongue-lashing that pulled on my roleplay experience, weird horror writing, knowledge of true crime, and a healthy dose of "listen here you little shit"-style wisdom, I terrified him into swearing that he would respect sex workers, trans women, the disabled, immigrants, and anyone else being hurt or at a social disadvantage, that he would treat his girlfriend and mother well, and that he would delete his accounts and stay off of findom Twitter for one year. He whined and pleaded to stay on, but his apparently compulsive lying and general attitude suggested that he had much bigger problems than being overly entitled. I tried to persuade him to get counselling without apparent success - but suggesting that he try in-person bdsm and join a community did seem to take root.

At any rate, his online days were done. My tweets about him got quite a bit of traction, and his goose was definitely cooked. I didn't trust him, and warned my fellow dommes that he might return with a new name.

How does this happen?


In part, there's a really poor communication system amongst findoms and other sex workers. It can be hard to spread word about bad clients (thanks, SESTA/FOSTA). The problem of men who make multiple accounts to scam dommes is ubiquitous. One fraudster used the same techniques and different profiles to run scams and pretend to pay multiple times on a Kik group, targeting a specific goddess (below; NuclearMistress) of whom he seemed enamored.

Since it's an unregulated industry with no entry requirements, dommes who know nothing other than how to take lingerie selfies and use Facetune can enter the scene. Demeaning other women and failing to learn either terminology or consent and safety rules, some of them develop great followings by selling video clips and pictures as well as doing roleplays. Truculent subs who want to insult a domme will point to such newbies, the "Instadommes," and imply that a domme either isn't worth the money or doesn't know what she's doing. "Findom is dying, the scene is ruined" is a common lament, but the scene itself has grown, and isn't going anywhere. Apparently, the fetish community has more than its share of gatekeepers.

Of course, not all the dommes - even though I was charmed and delighted by many of the ones I chatted with - are immune from problems.

The Literal Infant - Nineteen, British, and pretty, she didn't even know the basics of consent or how bdsm worked. Asking for advice about limits and admitting that she'd found the scene after an older man from Tinder had given her money, she was alarmingly uneducated. Worried that such a girl could be harmed if she went to a realtime meet-up and was robbed, I popped into her DMs with as much helpful info and advice as I could, as well as a few teaspoons of gently-administered bitter medicine. She took it well, and accepted my advice about educating herself on terminology. She doesn't seem particularly well-suited for the industry, and I advised her that freelance work was substantially better for quick money than findom.

Customer service from Hell


Here's the thing - even non-contact text-based roleplaying has higher skill requirements than you'd think. Knowledge of safety protocols and medical limitations, customer service skills, diplomacy, networking with other dommes, the ability to advertise online, writing skills, photography and film-recording, and modelling - which is not nearly as easy as people assume it is, by the way - all come into play. Plus, many subs are from elsewhere in the world, and there's a lot of "hurry up and wait" and cold-call messaging subs involved if you want to get anywhere.

Imagine working in a retail store where customers think you're doing it for fun and that they don't reaaaally have to pay for the goods on display. In addition, there are no security cameras, payment may be illegal or difficult in some countries, and both of you have to keep your identities separate and secret - even though interactions take place on social media.

I take great joy and pleasure in bringing happiness to other people, and that skill, as well as my knowledge of counselling and my conversational abilities, meant that I actually managed to approach and secure more than a few subs. But with a high bleed and loss rate and my own reluctance to market based on my looks - after all, my verbal abilities are far more commanding - even my higher-than-average success rates and modest income made the whole thing very bleak.

Ultimately, sex work online is an endurance contest. Entering from curiosity, desperation, or both, young women who try any form of erotic labour find themselves utterly abandoned by the system and cut off from the bare minimum of work protections and contract security offered by even freelancing sites.

What should we do? 


Ideally, sex work needs to be decriminalized worldwide (something Amnesty International recommends) and there needs to be a recognition that handling niche fetishes requires more training. For that matter, sex work itself is both risky and frustrating. The glamorous and dangerous portrayals in media tend to highlight the drugs and scandalous parts. Yeah, weird things happen, but you get used to that. The biggest problem is the grind and the fact that there are so few rules and protections. Pragmatically speaking, there is money to be made. From a social good standpoint, "ending demand" hasn't worked at any point in the ten thousand years or so of recorded civilization and history - but such rhetoric has resulted in forcing women and vulnerable individuals onto the streets.

We need training programs, certification, diplomas, and courses for people who want to enter the erotic labour market. It's not easy, and it's not unskilled labour. Decriminalization is just the start - to create a safe work environment, we have to treat it, at the very least, like things such as retail or massage businesses. Ideally, society should create an environment where social benefits are so easy to access that people in need don't have to use sex work as a survival industry.


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Michelle Browne is a sci fi/fantasy writer and editor. She lives in Lethbridge, AB with her partner-in-crime and Max the cat. Her days revolve around freelance editing, knitting, jewelry, and learning too much. She is currently working on other people's manuscripts, the next books in her series, and drinking as much tea as humanly possible.

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Wednesday, 26 June 2019

Twelve and a Half Weeks: Sugar Scams, Part 15

I hope everyone is ready for a very spicy update this week. Today, I'm going to dish some of my own experiences in financial domination. Get ready - this is going to be shadowy and spicy.

Readers' Advisory: This post will contain allusions to sexual content and acts that may not be suitable for all readers and ages. Offensive language and slurs also appear in screenshots. Discretion is advised.

What are my rules?


First, I decided that I would be stringent about consent and checking in with any of my submissives. It's better to kill the buzz than kill the sub, after all. Second, I would not engage in play that ran the risk of injury or sickness without ensuring the sub was fully aware of and experienced with any types of play alluded to - such as CBT (cock and ball torture), bondage, and other more risky activities. Third, I decided I would not exploit any subs who seemed to be in an unhealthy relationship with financial domination, and that playing within financial safety perimeters would be part of my practice. Fourth, I wanted to check in with my subs and interact as genuinely as possible. Fifth, I would keep my real name and identity separate and undisclosed to submissives for my own safety and to prevent doxxing. Sixth, I would continue informing and checking in with my partner, Disarcade, and solicit his advice when necessary. (Communication is important, folks.)

That covered most of my concerns. I figured I could adjust as necessary. With that, I put on my metaphorical goggles and took the plunge into the wild, extremely wet, dirty world of financial and feminine domination.

Aesthetics


The main world of findom and femdom is not that different from beauty guru Twitter or Youtube - although there's probably more lingerie and more nudity, and definitely more spit and feet. However, the number of people, virtually all cisgender women, who made heavy use of Facetune apps and surgical enhancements was a bit dismaying. Picture a sea of red, pink, blonde hair, and endless middle-fingers and "loser" signs flipped to the camera, complete with snarky captions and reimbursement links. There were many Black and Latinx and Asian dommes, but the majority appear to be British or American, slender, and large-hipped, clad in lace and stockings. Findoms talk about eating out at restaurants, going for drinks, clubbing with the girls, or going shopping, and all on subs' dimes. Prominent "TRIBUTE BEFORE DM" labels appear on bios.

Behind the scenes, though, it's a different story. In the domme chat, even women with several hundred followers - a lot by findom standards - said they had few or no consistent subs. Some said that even timewasters weren't pestering them anymore. Behind the scenes, many also discussed being bi and pansexual, broke, dealing with health issues - and even more. Art projects, interests in history and archeology, the opiod epidemic - all of these topics were fair game, and it made for rich and delightful discussions. Although the goddesses portrayed fairly controlled, sneering brat personas on the outside, they were far more rich and interesting people behind closed doors. However, all of us were honest about being far more broke than we pretended to be. Not unlike multi-level marketing scams, the advice passed around was, "fake it till you make it. The subs can smell desperation."

Subs: secret predators?


You'd think that submissive people, even submissive men, would probably be meek, polite, and shy in their interactions. Not always so. Unsurprisingly, findom has a serious harassment problem; men who aren't even into financial domination (ostensibly) will sometimes walk into a domme's DMs and solicit nudes, or even offer romantic propositions. Admittedly, dommes don't always make it easy on themselves - while more experienced ladies tweet about how to have healthy relationships, find a good match, and nurture their subs, younger ones slam their followers who retweet and like posts without contacting them. There's also a common wisdom not to contact submissives - which subs themselves sometimes dislike, especially those who are shy.

But even apparently shy or desperate subs - most of whom seem to be British, European, or Indian - can turn on dommes in an instant. As usual, the most dangerous animal in this documentary is Man.

It's painfully common for subs to ask to serve a domme, then refuse to pay or delay payment as long as possible. They beg and plead for Kik humiliation sessions, video and voice clips, and roleplays - and some are very happy to demand more during the scene than they initially requested.




To be completely honest, this was the most hurtful thing I saw during my stint in findom - it certainly stung the most on a personal level. But you better believe I didn't let him know that.


As mentioned, some submissives also try to trick dommes into roleplaying with them.




















But that's not all. Next, I'll have more stories and more gossip to dish from the findom honeycombs. Get ready; it's going to be messy.


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Michelle Browne is a sci fi/fantasy writer and editor. She lives in Lethbridge, AB with her partner-in-crime and Max the cat. Her days revolve around freelance editing, knitting, jewelry, and learning too much. She is currently working on other people's manuscripts, the next books in her series, and drinking as much tea as humanly possible.

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Wednesday, 19 June 2019

Daddy Casserole: Sugar Scams, Part 14


Today, I have a tale of a fallen giant - as well as a few particularly hilarious selections from sugar daddy fraudsters.

A few of the more hilarious errors and typos have been compiled below for visual variety, but let's get right into a tale of shame and infamy. Another reporter has covered this story in more detail, with useful information about how to generate fake Paypal screenshots and such.

Content note - the word "r*tard", a slur, appears in the video; the creator did apologize for that on Twitter, but I just wanted to brace listeners for that.




So, for over a year now, a figure known only as "TheSugarDad1" has been holding giveaways on Twitter for thousands of dollars. Following him was actually the beginning of my curiosity about sugar daddies on Twitter in general! After all, he had thousands upon thousands of followers, something very uncommon for other alleged sugars, and had screenshots from people who said they'd benefited from his generosity.

His consistent character and compassion made him compelling. He appears to have genuinely given away some money - a thousand dollars here or there - and was on the verge of attaining partnership with Twitter. Everyone was clamouring to find out who the mysterious man really was, and trying to figure out who the avuncular and compassionate "millionaire" might possibly be. There are twenty-six million millionaires in the world, and about 1800 billionaires - the possibility that one of them might want to share his wealth was irresistible.

It may not sound like much, but it was more than most other so-called sugar daddies had. His fluent English was another tip-off that he seemed legitimate. Other sugar scammers even imitated his language and tried to impersonate him! Accounts like @SugarDaddySteve and @KingofCash, the latter of which is now defunct, have both coasted on the same prestige - only to be revealed for using the same fraudulent techniques.




Seeing the so-called philanthropist fall is surprisingly disappointing. Of course, many will say, "It was too good to be true." But for many desperate young people retweeting his content, the desperation of our era made the improbable feel closer and more likely than it really was.

But of course, the story continues - and many other sugar scammers, including those who imitated @TheSugarDad1, are not nearly as competent. Behold this ridiculous rogue's gallery.

A lobster son? Of course. I guess even residents of Innsmouth want a little action on the side.
He left in the stock footage link. HE LEFT IN THE STOCK FOOTAGE LINK. 

"That's not me, lol" *anime sweat drop* 
'
"The beoing crash investigation" - of course. 

He wanted the chats of his competitors. I really wonder why. Was he looking out for his own accounts?  


"Send me your direct deposit info." "Okay." "Now send me your login and card number." "No
Of course, no post on scams would be complete without an update on a hot new method. Many financial submissives offer cryptocurrency as a payment method (most use Circle), but it would seem that the sugar scammers have figured out that their gift card and bank login-snatching ways are getting caught.

Today, a sugar scammer followed me, saying that he had secure options. Curious, I decided to take the bait. I knew there was a 95% chance he was a scammer - but I wanted to see what this new method was.

After getting me to sign up for a crypto wallet website, Blockchain Wallet - which is real and verified - he waited for me to reply and made small talk about my day. His English was better than usual, but I still noticed a number of errors - not as many as most others, though.

The app had a way to send a QR code to allow the receipt of funds. I sent that to him - and he demanded a picture of my website login. Here's the thing - that website login? It has the wallet's info, and by accessing the email login code, he would have been able to access (ostensibly) my address, real name, and birthdate. I don't use any of those for my undercover work, for obvious reasons - but I could have been in real trouble. Instead, of course, I blocked him, warned the rest of sex worker and sugar daddy Twitter, and went on my merry way.

And finally, if anyone feels like actually gracing my account with a tip after reading this series, here is my real Paypal.me and my Ko-fi.

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Michelle Browne is a sci fi/fantasy writer and editor. She lives in Lethbridge, AB with her partner-in-crime and Max the cat. Her days revolve around freelance editing, knitting, jewelry, and learning too much. She is currently working on other people's manuscripts, the next books in her series, and drinking as much tea as humanly possible.

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Wednesday, 12 June 2019

Totally True Stories: Sugar Scams, Part 13

Welcome back to another ridiculous installment in my deep dive series!

I've been focusing more on findom, but I haven't posted enough of my conversations with sugar daddies. More examples of their scamming techniques need to be exposed.

Today, I want to include some conversation screenshots from the more "invested" scammers who really tried to grind hard. Points for trying, I guess - but the way they really try to use relationship-building techniques is pretty insidious.

I've written about social engineering (the IT-dork's term for pretending that the "soft sciences" like psychology are totally just another kind of algorithm) and how sugar scammers try to build trust with their targets, but have a look at how it plays out in action.

In findom, a lot of the more experienced dommes would sneer at girls for falling for the sugar scam bait. "How could anyone be that stupid?" people often bluntly wonder. Setting aside the spurious and tricky debate about ableism in language and how much avoiding particular words can deal with an idea baked into English-speaking language and culture, it's not a matter of foolishness or bad judgement. It's because scammers use conversational techniques and tactics that are designed to build sympathy, empathy, guilt, and fear - as well as affection.

If it was just as simple as, "hey babe, I'll give you money," every scammer would be able to quit their grind. And certainly, a lot of them do just use those lines, but they also build in praise, affection, and a personal component.













You might notice some serious overlap in their storylines, just as I mentioned in previous posts. They tend to use concrete and familiar sources of "wealth" as their excuses - vague expertise in "business", gold-mining, and sometimes, cryptocurrency.









Disappointingly, this next scammer was not, in fact, a genetically modified monstrosity accompanied by tiny, demonic little girls engineered to suck the ADAM out of splice-happy undersea city residents. 

He started off talking about his business career and asking for a payroll arrangement - something less common among the scammers, but still used occasionally. It was new, so I was willing to give it a shot.












Some of them, of course, will try to make you feel bad about even asking them for some sort of verification. The reverse psychology of pretending you're the scammer who needs to prove themselves seems far more persuasive - and it's a technique that business people have been using to make sales since the eighties. Of course, when scammers use it, it's far more dangerous.











And finally, if anyone feels like actually gracing my account with a tip after reading this series, here is my real Paypal.me and my Ko-fi.

***
Michelle Browne is a sci fi/fantasy writer and editor. She lives in Lethbridge, AB with her partner-in-crime and Max the cat. Her days revolve around freelance editing, knitting, jewelry, and learning too much. She is currently working on other people's manuscripts, the next books in her series, and drinking as much tea as humanly possible.

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Thursday, 6 June 2019

FinDon't: Sugar Scams, Part 12

This week, I'm continuing my dive into the strange world of bdsm, money and Twitter, with up-close and personal reporting from the front lines. While dealing with a relapse of health issues, I struggled to edit. With my nervous energy and doglike work drive still intact, I decided to push my investigations deeper. I've been undercover in the world of financial domination, and I have more news about what it really is and how it really works.

Buckle up, kids, because we're going deeper than Buzzfeed and Vice.

You're a what? 


Because I'm as curious as I am determined, I decided to take my undercover work a step further and try my hand at the world of financial domination. The sugar daddy scammers had gotten repetitive. Even though I knew better and could recognise their pattern, I almost handed over a hundred dollars' worth of point cards to a scammer...almost. I realised what I was doing before the transaction took place and cancelled it. (And yes, I kept the money and it was refunded. We're safe!) And considering that I've been immersed in these scams for a few weeks now, what does that say?

It was hard enough trying to find a real sugar daddy amongst the piles of scammers and con-artists, and when my interviews with fake accounts began to follow the same patterns, I realised I'd hit a dead end. Unless I could somehow book a flight to Lagos, Nigeria and storm into the mysterious company's headquarters, I was hooped. But there was still a whole world of this peculiar and highly specialised group of fetishes to explore.

 Being a findom or femdom is way harder than it seems. What seems like an easy way to simply demand money from men in exchange for psychological work and bdsm-focused interactions is actually a tremendously tiring stream of work.

What's it like? 


Sex work is a commitment. Teasing people or taking lewd pictures is one thing; setting up multiple site profiles, researching business techniques and practices, and recording video clips - then selling them - is a ton of work. 

The other thing I noticed is that, frankly, a lot of the men who'd try to contact the financial dominatrixes - my profile included - were happy to get teased for a while, or undertake tasks, but when it came to actually paying up, tended to block or ghost away. There's something about sex work that makes men act with even more entitlement than usual. Apparently, even having to address a woman as "goddess", "Miss," or by other honorifics isn't enough to make them value the time, energy, and work of someone on the other side of a computer screen.

Some men at least use their labour to support dommes, but when financial limitations curtail a man's ability to pay, he may turn to retweeting as compensation.

The most frustrating thing is that the work itself is risky, and often involves sensitive information or deep, difficult roleplays. And since plenty of guys just lurk and watch videos of pretty, heavily-Facetuned girls jiggling their bums or flipping the bird or "loser" signs at the camera, it's not quite as easy and independent as edgy articles make it out to be. After all, why pay for what you can find for free? At least, that's what men seem to think.

And then, of course, if you can actually find a submissive, you have to make them pay. But the rush of being commanded, belittled, and demeaned by an attractive woman in a voluntary situation still has enough appeal that a significant number of men do enjoy the scene, and do tribute. Sometimes, they tribute far too much. 

The addiction


As I scrolled through the findom Twitter feed, there was plenty of talk about bankruptcy, wrecking marriages, and that sort of thing. As to whether or not the dommes actually planned to shatter someone's life, or whether it was "kayfabe" - a manufactured persona - is honestly unclear. Most of the time, I think it's probably playing to the fantasies, and many dommes were firm about taking either a nurturing or at least a responsible role - but other dommes don't break from their "mean, greedy bitch" personas. (That's not a slur, that's just the style, and many women wear those words as badges of pride.)

However, talking to a couple of my submissives revealed that sometimes, dommes will display abusive behaviours. From using a slave's tongue as toilet paper to teach other slaves a lesson (!) to manipulating a slave and blackmailing him for money after he didn't complete a Goddess's essay (!!!), I was pretty disgusted by the irresponsible stories I heard. But they were far and away in the minority - dommes I ran into who strayed from their kayfabe were pretty much unanimous in trying to be responsible.

But whether the dommes are careful or not, the gambling side of financial domination has a dangerous lure.

Anti-Findom activists


Most of the rhetoric I saw from men who mentioned that findom had wrecked them followed the usual prohibition-style rhetoric - Reddit and Twitter had a plethora of anti-sex work rhetoric, chasing the same tired courses about no-good hoes. Misogyny is as tiresome as it is inevitable. One particularly weird sub - who turned out to be a domme - kept attacking and baiting men who were tweeting about trying to recover, and trying to get them to submit to "his" domme, and to relapse. He was trying to play mind games, and it probably was effective for other people - but when I contacted "him", he couldn't get a nickel out of me. I even noticed that he was surprisingly dominant for a sub, which seemed to scare him off - perhaps luckily for me, as shown with the AB Wolfpack debacle.

He was far from the only one - a few other accounts, including the execrable "@findomphilosophy", happily jeer at the anti-findom tweeters and try to take them down or make them relapse. Dommes will occasionally join in on the shark-like feeding frenzy as well.

When I spoke in a private thread to a number of dommes, they unanimously agreed that they didn't want to ruin anyone - but one of the most successful said that "$100 a session was fine" and "pocket change" for most subs. Given the large numbers of substantially less affluent men I encountered, I would have to disagree - but of course, I didn't say so in the thread.

So - who's really getting exploited? And can findom be dangerous? 


Normally, I'd fall hard in line with the sex workers on this one - but there's just so many allusions to findom relapsing and addictive behaviour mentioned by findoms themselves. One of the men who acted as my submissive tearfully admitted that he couldn't stop sending money to various dommes when he felt weak. I did the only responsible thing a person can do in such a situation - I made him change his Paypal password, close his Twitter account entirely (giving him an alternate method to contact me without revealing my real name, of course), and offered a bunch of useful tips for dealing with the urge to spend. I'll detail my techniques in another post to come, but he was in tears of gratitude for the fact that I not only refused to exploit him, but that I was concerned about his wellbeing.

One of the things about mainstream and niche media coverage of findom is that journalists tend to lean hard on the uncomfortable capitalist commodification thing that happens in findom - men say they're submissive to women, but they're still the ones holding the wallets, and looking for pretty young women to feed their needs.

Ultimately, it's hard to tell how much of the dark side of findom is sensationalised or fantasy play, but the risk is there.

I'll update these stories as I go along, but for now, we'll leave it here. I still have more sugar daddy convo clips and information to come, so stick around!

And finally, if anyone feels like actually gracing my account with a tip after reading this series, here is my real Paypal.me and my Ko-fi.

***
Michelle Browne is a sci fi/fantasy writer and editor. She lives in Lethbridge, AB with her partner-in-crime and Max the cat. Her days revolve around freelance editing, knitting, jewelry, and learning too much. She is currently working on other people's manuscripts, the next books in her series, and drinking as much tea as humanly possible.

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